Hello ! I’m really happy to meet you today to talk about my number one enemy: stress.
As far back as I can remember, I have always been stressed and anxious. Logically, I discovered over the years effective techniques to allow me to tame my stress. And in the article of the day, I reveal to you all these little secrets! You will be able to control your stress (or at least prevent it from rotting your life).
Let’s go !
1: Use a mental trash
The first tip I’m going to share is the idea of creating a “Brain Dump”. I discovered this technique not long ago, but I find it really nice! Basically, as soon as you realize that you are accumulating a mental to-do list as long as your arm, you make a habit of recording everything. Having to constantly remind yourself of all the little tasks to do is stressful. You feel like you’re running out of time and you can not think of anything else because otherwise you’ll forget.
So, instead of drowning in your to-do list, lay it on paper; notes everything you need to do, all tasks that are important but not urgent, and everything you should do!
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N ° 2: everything is relative
When you’re in a stressful situation, you’ll start creating disaster scenarios in your head. The good news is that it’s so rare that events really happen as your worst nightmare. The bad news is that you got your life bored by over stressing yourself. This exam is not the sea to drink! You can do it, and it will be easier for you if you put the situation in context. “What is the worst that can happen to me if I miss my exams? Honestly, ironing the year. And that’s all ! Yes, it is not ideal as a situation, I grant you, but you will always have a roof., To eat, your friends, … and if it is, you will pass this exam.
To reduce your stress, only one word: relativise!
N ° 3: planning
Plan your days in advance. The people most affected by stress and anxiety are those who still want to control everything. I understand, that’s how I work too. But suddenly, immerse yourself in situations by not being prepared or wake up without knowing what you’re going to do, it can panic completely. Warning ! It’s always good to bring a little spontaneity back into your life. Especially knowing that you can not always control everything, so try to let go.
Only if you know that diving into the unknown makes you feel uncomfortable, do not push yourself to the limit.
N ° 4: analyze the situation (recognize the symptoms of stress)
Believe it or not, but you’re probably more stressed than you think. There are times when you are under tension without knowing it, because the physical symptoms are not as visible as during a crisis. In the long run, all these little tensions accumulate, until the day you notice them – and it is only when they leave you that you realize the weight that you carried on the shoulders.
Starting from this, try to “check-in” your body, to be more aware of your daily stress and try to relieve him to the maximum.
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N ° 5: move your body
I know, I know, you’re tired of hearing that you have to play sports to de-stress. On the one hand, you do not have to (you can just practice the other techniques of Article J). On the other hand, I think it’s a good plan: for a sport session, you create a dream body while calming your mind – and who knows, it can even be fun!
6: drink (tea)
I was not going to write you an article about stress without mentioning a single remedy for grandmother (you know me better than that, since time)! So here it is: if you have a sudden desire for a hot drink, make yourself a tea. I know it’s tempting to have a coffee, because it would allow you to fuel and be a little more efficient, but in the end the coffee will only stress you even more.
N ° 7: meditations
It’s starting to be known now, but I’ll say it again: yes, meditation really works. It’s not that complicated – even if you can not empty your mind, having a moment of self-expression can not hurt you.
I have some resources that you can use to get into meditation.
A choice :
My article on “how to meditate” (the basics)
My article on “4 wellness apps” – you’ll find tools to get you started
My free introductory guide to meditation
N ° 8: Laugh
And I’m not kidding by saying that (lol). Laughter has extraordinary power. Only physically, it will allow you to relax. Then, laughing will dramatize the situation in which you are and make you think of something else.
N ° 9: the power of pep talks
You’ve probably re-motivated someone with Pep Talk: it’s time to apply this method to yourself! I promise you, it really works. In addition, you do not have to say it aloud, in your head it works too.
If one of your friends feels that he will never reach a goal, I’m sure you do not miss any ideas to give him confidence in himself and his abilities. If you can do it for the others, there is no reason why you do not offer a Pep Talk when you feel that you need it.
If you think you need a little more help, I can give you a free Worksheet to get over your Anxiety and my Ebook “How to get over your anxiety : practical guide from a basic girl to be more spontaneous, stop overthinking and be happy”.
N ° 10: learn to say no
By being naturally stressed, you may be afraid to say no. You wish to be able to please everyone, all the time. Except that it’s not possible, and you have to think about yourself. What happens, for example, if someone asks you to speak in front of a crowd the same evening? If you can not say no, here you are, embarked on an evening that you will surely remember – because of the stress it caused you!
For your own good, you must know your limits (which you can not bear in terms of stress) and respect them. And for that, we must succeed in saying no to people! (Promised, they will not hate you.)
N ° 11: loose grip
As said above, you can not control everything. Although it is difficult to accept, you must digest it. Once it is done, you will be able to let go, and that, it will make you much less permeable to stress. Indeed, if you know that you can not do anything to change the situation, what is the point of stress?
N ° 12: talk to someone – the mental trash IRL
That’s the return of the mental trash! But that one is different. Instead of writing all the tricks in your head that stress you in the background, you’re going to talk to a friend. You will be discharged of all your “trash thoughts”.
You will tell him all your worries, the causes of your stress, in short, you will empty your bag (if your friend is able to listen, of course).
After that, you can go back to your day with a clear mind – you’ve got rid of all your negative thoughts!
To be completely honest with you, I have a lot of trouble with this idea. It’s a little “do what I say, not what I do,” but I still wanted to talk to you about it. Rationally, it is a good habit and a very healthy thing to do, but emotionally it can be more or less difficult depending on the people. Nobody is perfect !
Now, I do not force you to anything, but if the opportunity arises, do not let her go.
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N ° 13: be comfortable with yourself
My thirteenth tip is to feel comfortable. If you do not trust that you are going back in the mirror, you will be anxious without even being in a stressful situation. For that, it is necessary that you feel well in your clothes, that you are at ease with the appearance that you give.
If for example, you know that you will have to go to an event that you apprehend, find the way to wear something that you are used to wear.
N ° 14: breathe
Alternatively, you can also use one of the many breathing techniques to relax. Here’s a simple to do wherever you are: slowly inhale air into your left nostril, then block your breath for 10 seconds, before exhaling into the other nostril. Repeat, inverting, and continue until you feel calm. Concentrate on your breath, and try to go as slowly as possible without forcing yourself.
15: Create non-stressful expectations
Finally, create goals / achievable expectations! If you have too many expectations of a situation, you will be more stressed. It’s a good idea to have a goal that challenges you, but do not set the bar too high!
And here are these 15 ways to better control your stress! Here is a small summary of all the points:
- the mental trash
- All is relative
- plan, a happiness
- recognize the symptoms of stress
- do sport
- tea wood
- meditate
- channels
- the Pep Talks
- know how to say no
- let go
- empty your bag
- be comfortable
- breathe
- realistic expectations
If you found this article useful, it helped you reduce your stress, I advise you to go see this ebook – it seems to be made for you!
Be a part of the Jujubehappy V.I.P (or the Sunshine Family, I haven’t really settled down on a name) ! There is a virtual library full of free stuff, just for you. Inside, you can find and download checklists, worksheets, PDFs, guides and other personal development treasures to help you manage your stress, learn how to meditate, take care of you and much, much more ! To join the party, it’s right here.
Did you already know all these tips, where did I make you discover new ones? Tell me everything in comments!
